Funny how some things just become so clear in your mind even after hearing it over and over in movies, books or whatever. With that said, this might not be an epiphany to you but it is to me at this point in my life..it has become very clear to me.
While on a train back home from partying, in the early hours of today, i was a part of one those philosophical conversations about life..you know the ones, you always have them whenever you have to study for a difficult exam/test, write yet another annoying report or when you are bored, so i tend to have these conversations at least once a week.
Anyways, we were talking about how university is so difficult and everybody just thinks students just party and blah blah blah and someone commented on how Nigerian parents would be like 'you're not the only one that goes to uni, others have done it before you!" but i thought that was not the issue, what i'd like them to say to motivate me is "YOU can do it, definitely can!it's in you to be able to"
That isnt my epiphany, so what is?
I lay in my room doing my work and as i reflect on that conversation coupled with the tweets I've been reading about Whitney Houston's (God rest her soul) funeral, I realise that that's basically all the motivation we need in life not just in our academics. YOU can do it. YOU are good enough. You are pretty. You are at your optimum size. Okay scratch that last one, may not be true. But the point is why does there have to be a reference. This is not thermodynamics, we do not have to have to measure ourselves from a standard value as though we are enthalpies (excuse the neeky-ness). We cannot continue to compare ourselves to someone else's coolness, beauty or size and see if we fall way below or way above that standard.
"all fingers are not equal" may sound silly but it is true, I would never be a certain height and if i get as skinny as some of my friends, i'll just look disgusting. You have to be your own standard value satisfying your own limit and not the general standard
IMO x
